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Regulation of Funeral Homes

14/3/2024

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Every so often, a horror story reaches us regarding malpractice in a funeral home. Fortunately, these instances are rare, and most funeral directors and staff in the sector are caring and conscientious, and set themselves the highest standards. 

A recent case in the news about a Hull funeral home has understandably broken the hearts of the dozens of families affected, and shaken the trust of the public in 'undertakers' and 'funeral parlours', as the media sometimes still refers to them.

There is a fear of what might go on behind closed doors in the care of the deceased, and a worry about corner cutting motivated by profit.

I understand the unease, through personal experience. I was once approached direct by a family to lead the service for their person. It was only when I met with them I discovered that the 'funeral director' was a known for offering a service that refelcted the very low fees.

The family expressed concerns that they had not been treated well and prevented from seeing their loved one, and in my opinion, the funeral team at the service were shambolic, acting with less dignity than one would have hoped for. It was a sad sight. I stepped in to act as funeral director as the company didn't bother to send one! 

This was *not* the company currently making headlines, but similar operators do exist who fall far short of expected standards.
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How can this be?

Most people are shocked to discover how little regulation there is in the funeral sector, and that it's relatively easy to set up as a funeral director (if you can afford to). 

So, here are a few things you should know, before you entrust your person, or yourself, to the care of a funeral home.

Regulation in the Funeral Sector in England – An Overview

This short guide looks at funeral homes only, and not funeral plan providers, crematoria, or online direct cremation companies. All information is given in good faith, and is indicative, not exhaustive. Some examples from Lincolnshire are used for illustration and clarification. 
 
A. What You Need to Know
  • Funeral homes MUST follow legislation for the certification and disposal of bodies, and health & safety.
  • There is NO statutory requirement from government for funeral homes to be inspected.
  • There is NO requirement for funeral homes to be members of a trade body.
  • There is NO requirement for funeral directors to have any training.
  • There is NO code of practice all funeral directors must follow.
  • Quality of funeral home care and service varies greatly.
  • BUT: There is also NO requirement for you to use a funeral director if you don't wish. 
 
B. Voluntary Trade Organisations & Codes of Practise

There are two UK associations that set out a code of conduct for professional and ethical standards for funeral directors. These include guidance on best practice for care of the deceased, confidentiality and data protection, and handling of complaints.

  • Membership is voluntary.
  • Not all funeral homes apply to join.
  • Not being a member does not necessarily mean a funeral home is not trustworthy.
  • Nor does membership guarantee best practice.

The two bodies are:

NAFD – National Association of Funeral Directors.
Both independent funeral homes and corporate chains may be members.
Look for the symbol of a gold lion on a blue background on funeral home literature.

You can find the code here: https://www.nafd.org.uk/standards/the-funeral-director-code/
 
SAIF – National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors.
SAIF is, as the name suggests, for independently-run funeral homes.
The logo is a pale blue oval on darker blue.

You can find the code here:
https://saif.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Code-of-Practice-Oct-2020-with-Logo.pdf
 
When visiting a website or funeral home, look for a trade logo; and if there is none, ask why they have chosen not to join a trade body, if they have a code of practise, and what their feedback and complaints process is.

Read reviews on the website, and better still, look at Google or Social Media platforms, where the funeral home cannot select which reviews appear. If reviews are turned off, this should be a red flag.

Remember to leave a review after to help others comparing funeral homes, and credit good standards. If there are any concerns, report them to the trade body – assuming they’re in one - or in extreme circumstances, the police.


C. Training

Funeral directors do not have to have any training to set up a funeral home, or work as a funeral director.

Some funeral homes will insist their funeral directors are trained to recognised standards, with accredited qualifications from the NAFD, and/or BIFD (the British Institute of Funeral Directors).

Don’t assume that a logo on display means some/all funeral directors at the home are trained.

For recognised qualifications:
  • Look for NAFD DipFD after a name – it's the Diploma in Funeral Directing. Some will have the FAA - the NAFD certificate in Funeral Arranging and Administration while working towards the DipFD.
  • Some funeral directors will also have further attained the BIFD License to Practise. The logo has a black triangle.
  • Look for certificates from the NAFD or BIFD displayed in the funeral home.

Some funeral homes, whether group or family-owned, will have their own training systems.

Others will have no trained staff at all.

Enquire generally about how long the staff have worked there and what training they did, and if you’re not reassured, go elsewhere.
 
D. Chains and Independents

There are national chains (like Cooperative Funeralcare and Dignity), and regional chains (e.g. Lincolnshire Co-op and Beverley Funerals). Companies like these are usually members of the NAFD.
 
Note that some still retain a prior name if a business that was once independent/family owned, has since been taken over (e.g. the once family-owned Kettle funeral home branches in Lincolnshire are now run by chains – by Cooperative Funeralcare in Grimsby, and Dignity in Brigg). 
 
Corporate branding colours and the footer of the website and documentation should indicate if the funeral home is part of a group.
 
Independent or family-owned businesses may be members of the NAFD and/or SAIF, or neither.
 
There are differences in the ways corporates and independents operate, in terms of their business model (e.g. if commission is offered, or there are sales targets to meet) and the type of care and personal service offered (e.g. if you are assigned a funeral director who will be your continuous point of contact).

Standards are more likely to be comparable between branches with chains due to the management structure, but this does not indicate they are higher than those of independents.

It is up to you to decide which is right for you. Chains benefit from economies of scale which may be reflected in an extensive product range, and fleet and staffing availability. 

Independents may be more affordable, lacking so many overheads, and offer a more personal service, with strong ties to, and understanding of, the local community.


Bear in mind what was once your family’s go-to local funeral home may be staffed and operated differently if it is a long time since your family last used it.

 
 E. CMA Legal Orders

As a result of the Competitions and Markets Authority survey of the funeral sector, and report on areas of concern to government in 2020, the following orders are now part of the legal requirement for funeral homes:

1. Funeral directors must display a Standardised Price List (including attended and non-attended funerals), Additional Options (such as collection of ashes and embalming) and up-to-date typical fees for local crematoria and burials. Look for these online and displayed in the window of the premises.

This is so you can see total costs, and compare providers.

You may compare and shop around to choose the funeral home and service that is right for you.

Some categories may say POA or offer a price range.
If you need help, ask for a printed itemised quote.

Better still, call or pay a visit to a few funeral homes, and see if you feel comfortable with how they receive you and answer your questions. You may need to make an appointment, rather than drop in.


2. Funeral directors must display their terms of business (including payment options and late charges). This should be made clear to you before you enter into any contract. Some funeral homes require payment upfront; others will take a deposit.

This helps you budget, and be aware of how much and when the payment of deposit and balance are due.
Be sure to ask for this in writing, or by email, if it is not readily offered.

3. Funeral directors should not solicit for business (e.g. coroner contracts), offer incentives for referrals (e.g. from care homes), and must disclose interests (e.g. donations) and any conflict thereof.

This is to deter profiteering through bribery and breach of trust.

You may select your chosen funeral director yourself
(and any related providers, such as celebrants and florists),
and your choice should be informed, and free from bias or influence.


For brevity, this piece has just scratched the surface, so if you have further questions, get in touch and I can answer your general queries or direct you to a trusted Grimsby funeral home or funeral director if you'd like to speak to one.
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If you'd like a pdf copy of this, email me at [email protected]


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January 06th, 2023

6/1/2023

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Inspiration for your wedding, civil partnership or vow renewal
3 Ideas – 3 Venues – 3 Suppliers
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Ideas

Eloping 
Eloping became is synonymous with Gretna when the 1754 Marriage Act prevented couples from England & Wales marrying under 21 unless they had parental permission, so many young lovers dashed to this first village over the Scottish border to be hitched without restriction.

Elopement is still popular, but for different reasons. Some couples like the secret rush of ‘running away’ to be wed; others see their union as something deeply personal and for them alone. Just as smaller weddings have become popular, some couples take the next step and dispense with the big do, and the fuss and expense of organising it, and keep things simple.

There can be more to it than popping to the local register office for 10 minutes. For couples who want a small but special event, there may still be planning to do – such as finding a wedding planner or travel counsellor specialising in elopement in your chosen county or country.

Some couples opt for a celebrant ceremony after the legalities, in a place meaningful to them or breathtakingly beautiful – atop a wild moorland, a dappled woodland, in an ice cave, or barefoot on a beach. Not forgetting the right photographer to accompany them too and record their magical elopement.
 
Entertainment
Weddings can be long events, and many couples give thought to how to keep their guests entertained (other than at the bar). Here are a few.

  • The ceremony itself
If you’ve chosen a celebrant-led ceremony, the fun starts right away, and your guests can enjoy being part of your ceremony, not mere witnesses to it. They can be part of symbolic acts – such as ‘warming’ the rings as they are passed around, placing a ribbon or cord in a hand tying – or underscore the vows by answering ‘We Do!’ to group promises personal to the couple.

  • Post-ceremony to reception
Between the photographs and meal, hired lawn games are popular – croquet, mini golf, giant chess, Connect Four or Jenga, space hoppers etc.

For the reception, there are lots of table activity options – from custom jigsaw puzzles, ‘Guess Who’ with guest pictures and ‘Find Your Partner’ clues on the reverse of the place setting. Many are paper based – such as best man speech bingo, betting cards or finish the sentence (also called mad libs), date night ideas/best advice slips to go in a wishing jar, trivia quiz on the couple, and I Spy or scavenger hunt challenges (such as taking photos of a kiss, a group selfie, chinking glasses etc) with a hashtag to share them with online.

For hired entertainment, how about a magician, fire eater, stilt walker, poi performer, arcade game or photo booth? Not forgetting the music of course – your musician, band or DJ to get the party started.

Of course, the newlyweds or couple are the star, and either your best man/woman or the celebrant (if you’ve hired them to stay) can orchestrate their games. A popular choice is the Shoe Game – a Mr and Mrs (or Mr/Mr, Mrs/Mrs) type quiz with each partner holding one of their own shoes and one of their partner’s to raise to answer the questions with.
  
Entry
The archetypal image of the start of a British wedding that we’re used to is of a groom waiting at the head of the aisle anticipating turning round for his first glance of his bride as she processes down the aisle to meet him.

There are no rules though; you can mix it up according to what suits you best, plus, the bridal-party style entry may not work for those wanting a more equal ceremony, same- or other-gendered couples, or those celebrating a commitment ceremony, civil partnership, or vow renewal who don’t want a traditional ‘weddingy’ feel.

Other ideas include:
  • Both entering together, hand in hand, walking or dancing down the aisle to your song
  • Entering simultaneously but separately, taking different paths in before joining
  • Reversing the gender roles – the bride waits and the groom enters
  • For themed ceremonies, you might enter by alternative means – on horseback, by zipwire, carried on a palanquin, or unrolled from a carpet like Cleopatra!
  • Having a non-straight aisle and seating layout: a cabaret style layout allows you to weave round guest tables and say hello, and a heart shaped could permit you to each come in around the sides to meet at the top of the heart
 
Links
Venues

Elsham Hall, N Lincs
www.elshamhall.co.uk/weddings/
Elderflower Events, Rural Lincolnshire
www.elderflowerevents.com
Elm Tree, Hundleby
elmtree.co.uk/weddings/

Suppliers
Elizabeth Kate Bridal, Crowle
www.elizabethkatebridal.co.uk/
Enchanted Garden, Grimsby
www.enchantedgardenflorists.co.uk/
Essence Flowers, Scunthorpe
www.essenceflowers.co.uk/
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A-Z of Weddings: A

4/7/2022

 
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3 Ideas – 3 Venues – 3 Suppliers

Each week the A-Z taster presents ideas for your wedding, civil partnership or vow renewal.  Mini blogs of just 200 words introduce you to each idea.
Click ‘Contact’ if you want to know more.
 
Up to 3 Venues and 3 Suppliers are featured each blog.
As far as possible, these are local Lincolnshire businesses.
​A mix of established and new, large and small, traditional and alternative. To be fair, each is presented without comment (unless an explanation is needed), and with a link to social media or the website so you can find out more.
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Aisle
Walking down the aisle towards the one you love. Aww, whose heart doesn’t skip a beat?
Traditionally, with bride and groom, the groom stands at the top of the aisle, waiting for the moment he can turn and catch the first glimpse of his beloved as she makes her entrance.

If you want to break with tradition, especially for equal marriages and civil partnerships, you might mix it up. Both of you could come in together, hand-in-hand, or walk from different doors or corners of the room and come together at the top of the aisle. I say walk. Dance if you like! Enter on a motorbike, Space Hopper, or be carried in Cleopatra style and unrolled from a rug! It’s your big entrance – do it your way! Have an escort if you’d like – a parent or even a pet.

Whether you’re marrying inside in a function suite, in a barn or tipi, or outdoors in woodland or on the beach, there are many ways to reflect your style in the aisle (that rhymes!).
Red or white carpet, a custom printed runner, rugs or skins, or barefoot on sand – what’s your preference? Lined with candles, vases of flowers, leaves or grasses, scattered petals, trees or rustic logs, shells, rocks or stones, perhaps with an archway under which you can pause to relish the moment.
 
Alternative Ceremonies
Alternative ceremonies are for couples who break the mould – and they remove any traditional elements that aren’t ‘you’, such as being ‘given away’ or wearing a white dress, because that’s expected. Wear a black dress or a trouser suit if that’s what makes you feel great. It’s not only about style though. It’s a celebration of who you are and is a reflection of your personality, and beliefs (if any).

Alt ceremony weddings are sometimes called an un-wedding, non-wedding or anti wedding to distinguish them from convention. They are often described as quirky, unconventional or bold. They may be designed around your heritage, style or lifestyle – pagan, steampunk, gothic, boho, vintage, rock ‘n’ roll; or themed by your interests and inspiration – rainbows, dinosaurs, film noir, Harry Potter, Alice in Wonderland, The Little Mermaid etc.

Alternative venues and locations are popular – mystical woodlands, majestic coastlines, atmospheric caves, the giraffe house at a safari park, a brewery, a hot air balloon, or sky dive if you’re brave! It’s about understanding what is authentic and true to you, and what will make your day truly your own. Then going for it! Don’t want a big fuss? Elope! Do it your way.
 
Animals
Love animals? How about including them in your day, actually or symbolically? If you love horses, you could arrive by horse-drawn carriage or on horseback. Some companies provide llamas, alpacas or goats for your special day.

How about your pet? Check first with your venue or location, and consider their personality, to see if your pet could attend too. Dogs are popular, and look amazing dressed in bow ties and little suits. Your pet pooch could take on a traditional role - ring bearer, best dog, dog of honour or flower girl. If you have a pet sitter for the day, they might bring the pet along for a short while so they can be part of the day. Your celebrant ceremony certificate could have space for a witness paw print (scanned in digitally if it’s not practical on the day).
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Your animal theme may be reflected in the wedding stationery or cake design. How about a 3-tiered cake with layers of leopard skin, snake print and zebra stripes?
You could include your pets in your vows too, promising to take care of them together, or to love your partner *almost* as much as them!
 
Links:

Venues - A
Remember – a celebrant-led ceremony can take place at any venue; it doesn’t have to be licensed for civil weddings or partnerships. Here are some venues for a Lincolnshire wedding.

Abbey Farm Weddings
https://abbeyfarmweddings.co.uk/
https://www.facebook.com/abbeyfarmweddings

Abby's Bistro
https://www.abbysbistro.co.uk/upstairs-abbys/celebration/
https://www.facebook.com/abbysupstairs/

Ashbourne Hotel
https://www.oakridgehotels.co.uk/ashbourne-hotel/
https://en-gb.facebook.com/AshbourneHotel/

Suppliers - A

A Booth and Beyond
https://en-gb.facebook.com/aboothandbeyondphotoboothhire/

Amy Lauren Weddings
https://www.amylaurenweddings.co.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/amylaurenweddings/?hl=en

Anna Belle Designs
https://www.instagram.com/anna.belle.designs/?hl=en-gb
https://en-gb.facebook.com/annabelledesigns/

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