If you're visiting this page, then you must be looking forward to celebrating your relationship with your beloved, and that is simply fabulous!
Love - it's what life is about!
Are you ready now to proclaim your love to all, and say 'I do', as you celebrate your wedding or partnership, in a fabulously fun and beautifully bespoke ceremony?
If you're married, will you take each other's hands and declare 'I still do' in your renewal of vows? To enjoy your anniversary, and all you've shared and been through - whether it's the 1st, 5th, 50th, or 'just because' it's your special day?
Do your hearts long to yell 'Yes!' to a whirlwind romantic elopement ceremony for just the two of you, at sunrise or sunset, on the beach or a hill, or your special place?
Will you feel the delight of keeping a secret, inviting your family & friends to your favourite space for a 'party', and then 'Surprise!', it's your wedding!
Whichever celebration is right for you, I'll create that super special day for you.
Below you'll find:
Ideas to inspire you to think about your perfect celebration
What's included in your couples' ceremony package
Frequently Asked Questions
Let Yourself Dream...
Take a few moments now to day dream about the perfect ceremony you'd like me to create for you...
Where would you love it to take place..? Really love it to be? What's your perfect wedding venue or setting?
Hotel, restaurant, function suite, clubhouse, stately home, night club, music venue, bar, barn, tipi, marquee, zoo, stable, farm, festival, campsite, theme park, football ground, golf club, gym, spa, lido, rooftop, hot air balloon, plane, cable car, train, race track, yacht, houseboat, aquarium, beach,lakeside,lighthouse, hilltop,meadow, botanical gardens, national park, orchard, vineyard, brewery, woodland, cave, landmark, castle, historic ruin, deconsecrated chapel, theatre, cinema, art gallery, museum, library, café, casino, bowling alley, your home or garden, the place you met or proposed, a secret location...
With me as your celebrant, you're not limited to licensed venues. Have it where you want! As long as the owner gives permission, you can have your ceremony anywhere.
What elements will be in your order of ceremony?
Your love story, meaningful vows, surprise promises, a blessing, remembering loved ones, poems, readings, speeches, jokes, favourite music, singing, video or slide show, grand entrance or exit, choreographed piece, surprise elements, fun & games...
Which symbolic ritual will you choose to represent your union and your feelings and hopes for the future?
Exchange of rings, ring warming or blessing, lighting a unity candle, sharing a loving cup, making a cocktail, sealing (or opening) a time capsule or anniversary box, tree planting, sand blending, tying the knot or hand fasting, jumping the broomstick, exchanging gifts or garlands, a tradition from your faith, culture, sub-culture or lifestyle, a unique ritual created especially for you...
How would you like to involve your family, friends, children (or even a pet!)?
Bridesmaid, matron of honour, escort, best man/woman, groomsmen, flower girl, page boy, usher, ring bearer, reader or speech maker, choir, witness, participants in a symbolic act... your family and friends can play as much or as little of a role as you, and they'd, like.
Already you can see there are so many more options when you choose me for your celebrant-led ceremony... your celebration will reflect your personalities and interests, and be as every bit as unique as you are.
Dream it? Do it! Call me now.
Select Your Own Precious Jewel Package
Everyone knows the value of investing in a precious jewel to treasure always, don't they? That's true of your couple's celebration too! You want to shine on your special day, and have memories to cherish for ever. Whether you'd love a simple or sparkling ceremony, you'll find the right one to suit you here. Pick one of the four precious Jewel Wedding Packages, If you wish, add your Gold enhancements, or select from Solitaire stand-alone options. Not sure? Call me.
The semi-precious option for a simple, beautiful ceremony on a budget, and amazing value for professional-quality celebration created & led by a fully qualified celebrant.
Pre-meeting support – you’ll receive fun ‘homework’ to help you think about the kind of ceremony you’ll love, and to reflect on your love story.
Face-to-face ceremony planning meeting (via video call if out of area) - we’ll chat in detail about your ceremony dreams, and get to know each other well. There may be some fun surprises!
Inspiration & guidance on ceremony content, with tailored suggestions for content such as readings, poems, music, and on personalising your ceremony.
Support with writing your vows.
1 x symbolic action or ritual (E.g., unity candle, sand ceremony, hand tying) to add the ‘wow’ factor to your ceremony (included option).
Design of a uniquely personal ceremony of up to 20 minutes/2000 words.
Ceremony draft – you’ll receive the script for your full approval.
1 x amended draft - to make sure your ceremony is just right (included option).
Email support at each key stage of ceremony creation.
Video walk-through and final briefing of up to 1 hour (included option).
Liaison with venue, suppliers and contributors to make sure everything runs smoothly.
Travel within 20 miles of DN35.
Ceremony held at any time you choose, on a Monday – Thursday.
Ceremony held at any licensed or unlicensed venue, or an alternative location subject to Health & Safety (H&S) checks.
Professional delivery of your ceremony on the day, with unrushed presence until the photos.
1 x Personalised Gilt-Edged Ceremony Certificate to treasure (with or without space for witnesses as you prefer).
Electronic Word/pdf copy of script to keep for posterity.
Not included. Asterisked items may be added as gold enhancements, to suit your requirements:
One hour in-person rehearsal.*
Additional meeting in person or by video call.*
Additional symbolic action or ritual*
Simple printed souvenir script, or Custom or Deluxe presentation gift pack including script.*
Ceremonies held on Friday-Sunday, Bank Holidays and on/at Festivals.
Visit check on venue/location without Health & Safety certificate (including homes/outdoors).
Access to VIP Couple area of website.
Personalised Vows with Va Va Voom writing workshop.
Mileage beyond 20 miles, at standard rate.
The first of the Precious Jewel packages, for couples who want something a little more special. Everything listed under Amethyst is included, plus you will also enjoy the following: Pre-Ceremony
Access to the VIP Couple area of website, with hundreds of resources and options for inspiration.
Support, guidance and feedback to help create and refine your personalised vows & promises.
Design of your unique custom ceremony of your chosen length, up to 30 minutes/2500 words.
Rehearsal and final briefing in person at home or venue within 30miles, or via video call, of up to 1 hour (included option).
Check on venues/locations without H&S certificate, to put your mind at rest.
Ceremony held at any time, on a week day or weekend, to suit you, excepting Bank Holidays and on/at Festivals.
Custom presentation pack including your souvenir ceremony script, as a reminder of your amazing day.
Your personalised wedding Vows Cards (included option) - to keep in your presentation pack, along with your script & certificate.
Exclusivity of booking for the big day, giving you freedom and flexibility of times.
Not included. Asterisked items may be added as gold enhancements, as suits you:
One hour dedicated Vows with Va Va Voom writing workshop.*
Additional Simple printed souvenir script, Custom or Deluxe presentation gift packs including script.*
Ceremonies held on Bank Holidays and on/at Festivals.
Mileage beyond 30 miles, at standard rate.
Everything listed under Amethyst and Ruby is included. This is for couples who are keen to invest in a truly dazzling personalised Precious Jewel ceremony for their special day.
Your choice of 2 x symbolic actions or rituals to give your ceremony real depth and drama (included option).
Design of your one-of-a-kind custom ceremony of your chosen length of up to 40 minutes/3000 words.
1-hour Vows with Va Va Voom writing workshop in person OR an additional meeting of up to 1 hour in person, by video/phone call (at request).
2 x amended drafts to make sure your ceremony is perfect for you (if required).
Ongoing email and telephone support whenever you need me, or want a chat about the day and plans.
Rehearsal and final briefing at home or at venue within 40 miles, or via video call, of up to 1 hour to add the final polish to your perfect event (included option).
Deluxe presentation gift pack including your souvenir ceremony script, and a little gift, as a reminder of your amazing day.
Up to 3 additional Simple printed souvenir scripts to give to loved ones as a memento (included option).
Up to 4 additional Personalised Gilt-Edged Ceremony Certificates for your witnesses (included option).
Not included. Asterisked items may be added as optional gold enhancements:
Additional symbolic action or ritual.*
Further printed Simple, Custom or Deluxe souvenir script packs.*
Ceremonies held on Bank Holidays, and on/at festivals.
Mileage beyond 40 miles, at standard rate.
The ultimate couples' ceremony package. Everything listed under Amethyst, Ruby and Sapphire is included, plus all calendar dates. Contact me with your specific requests - such as extended presence or support at your reception, coaching or support with speech writing etc., and I'll tailor a package just for you.
What if you're 'between packages, and don't need the next one up, but would like to add an optional extra? Maybe you only need me to lead OR write your ceremony? Read on.
You’d like to add more sparkle to your day, with glittering extras to your package? Brilliant! These are for you.
Simple Printed souvenir script - £4 single or 3 for £10.
Custom Gift pack in presentation folder including souvenir script - £7.50 single, or £20 for 3.
Deluxe Gift pack in presentation quality memory box, including souvenir script & personalised gift - £15 single.
Certificate, script & gift packs include P&P to one UK mainland address.
Additional symbolic actions or rituals - £20 each.
Additional meetings, per hour or part thereof - £30.
Vows with Va Va Voom writing workshops, per hour or part thereof - £30 (Jewel Package clients).
One hour in-person rehearsal - £100 (within package distance band).
Emcee-ing at your reception, informal style - £POA.
If you don’t require a full jewel package, I'll add polish to your special day with these stand-alone options.
CEREMONY DELIVERY ONLY
If you already have a script for your ceremony – perhaps written by family or a friend - and wish it to be delivered professionally, this is your best choice. Includes a phone/video meeting of up to one hour, emails and proof-reading of script, travel within 40 miles of DN35, and officiation on the day.
Couples' Ceremony Delivery - £200.
CEREMONY SCRIPT ONLY
If you’d like to deliver the ceremony yourself, or have a friend lead it, from a professionally written script, this is the option for you. I’ll provide you with a ‘pick up and go’ script including stage directions, prompts and checklist to ensure you deliver it perfectly. Copyright remains with myself and must be remain on the script, which may not be published, shared beyond the client, or used for any other, or further, purpose. Includes an initial phone/video meeting of up to one hour, and email support and up to one hour's coaching for the ceremony leader (at request). Ceremony of up to 2500 words (20 mins), plus one amendment of draft before you receive the finalised script.
Couples' Script Writing Service - £350.
VOWS & PROMISES**
Personalised vows and promises are the heart of a couple’s ceremony. It doesn’t matter which ceremony type you are having, or whether you'd like to book me or not – and whether a registrar-led civil wedding service, or a ceremony conducted by another celebrant – I’ll help you with the heart of your ceremony. You may choose stand-alone email support to help you craft your vow, or a face-to-face workshop.
Virtual Vows Support Simple email support with advice and feedback (up to 3 emails each way) - £30
Vows with Va Va Voom Struggling to find the right words to write your vows? Wish they could reflect your values & personality? Book a stand-alone vows & promises workshop. Either have a 1-2-1 each, or a joint workshop for the two of you. These are held in person, and not conducted virtually. Email support given after if required. £50 flat fee first hour, then charged per 1/2h pro-rata (non-jewel package rates). Special rate of £30p/h then charged per 1/2h pro-rata for Jewel Package clients.
**Booking from October 2022
COACHING & ADVICE
Open to all couples, whether booking ceremony with me, or not. Support for your day, including speech writing & delivery, creation of unique symbolic actions etc. £30 flat fee first hour, then charged per 1/2h pro rata.
Tell Me More! Here's the FAQs
1. What's the difference between a REGISTRAR and a celEbrant?
A registrar processes the legal formalities of marriage and civil partnership in a short standardised ceremony, whereas a celebrant creates and leads a personalised celebration of a wedding or union.
Marriage and wedding are different things, just as registering a birth or death are legal requirements, and separate from naming ceremonies or a celebration of life.
Registrars are are council administrators; they arenot celebrants. Celebrants are self-employed specialists in creating & delivering ceremony.
2. WHat's the difference between a registrar SERVICE and celebrant-led ceremony?
With a registrar, there are restrictions on what is permitted; both when and where the registration of marriage may take place, and the ceremony wording and permissible content, for it to constitute a legal civil marriage.
The ceremony must be at the register office or a council approved venue, with two registrars present, and two witnesses.
The format is the same in each ceremony - you will need to respond to some legally binding declarations and contracting statements. You can choose from a few variations of wording, and add to them, subject to registrar approval. Religious or spiritual content is not allowed, so some music and readings will not be permitted. Content needs to be passed in advance by the registrar.
You may not choose your registrar (although you can choose your register office); they will be a stranger that you meet just before the ceremony. They will have many services to fit in each day; yours will be just one.
You will have no assurance of how good their service delivery is - it may be lovely, or it may be poor! Registrars are administrators, not trained ceremonialists.
More couples are choosing the basic 2x2 register service, followed by a proper celebration with a celebrant.
As a result, some register offices advertise 'celebration-style ceremonies' implying you can have a 'personalised' celebrant ceremony at their premises. Some have even started calling registrars celebrants. They're not.
These 'personalised' ceremonies are a registrar reading from a templated script with your name and a few limited choices inserted in. They do not offer custom written ceremonies, created with detailed consultation with the couple.
If you feel you're led to believe the council has their own 'celebrants', ask them what celebrant qualifications each has, and how many hours go into creating your ceremony!
With a celebrant, you have almost complete freedom of choice over your ceremony. You can have your celebration at any place (subject to the owner's permission), on any day and time.
You may still choose to use an approved venue if you like it. It may be more expensive, and booked up sooner for registrar services.
You may prefer an unlicensed venue, or an alternative setting that suits you, such as a bar, garden, woodland... anywhere!
There are no set words that must be said. You mustn't say the words used in a civil marriage though, or give the impression the ceremony is legally binding.
You may include any content you desire - any type of music, readings, symbolic acts. It may be as traditional and formal, or relaxed and quirky as you like. Family and friends may play a full role in the ceremony.
The ceremony will be truly about the pair of you, and reflect your personalities. No ceremony will be the same, because no couple is the same - each is created afresh.
You'll get to know your celebrant well too, and they you, as they'll consult with you throughout - over a period of months up to a couple of years, depending on when you book them.
Celebrants may also recognise relationships registrars cannot.
For example, people...
not wanting a religious ceremony (e.g. clergy led), but who would like some faith content included
of different beliefs and backgrounds who wish have both their traditions honoured in an inter-faith or joint-traditions ceremony
for whom it is better not to be legally joined (e.g. if it affects a widow's pension) but who may wish to have their relationship affirmed
who wish to elope or have a spontaneous or surprise ceremony (N.B. it is better that the legalities are conducted first)
those who would like to combine celebrations, such as a wedding and naming
Registrar service fees are fixed by the council - such as £57 for a statutory marriage service in the register office to about £550-600 for attendance at a venue. Celebrant fees are individually set and reflect the time, costs and expertise that go into a custom ceremony; not just attendance, and so professional celebrant fees will not be lower than those of registrars. UK fees range from £500-£1200. In 2020, the average cost of a wedding celebrant was £650.
See Q9 for what is included in my fees.
3. HOW DO I LEGALLY REGISTER OUR MARRIAGE?
For marriage and civil partnership, a simple statutory '2x2' couples ceremony (couple and two witnesses) at the register office is cheap as chips! It's around £57.
If you book the registrars to come to an approved venue, or use a council ceremony suite, it will cost much more - typically £350-£500 extra for that 10 minute 'legal bit' to be done outside the register office.
If you want value for money, and a more personal and meaningful experience, opt for a register office legal 'quickie', plus a celebrant-led celebration after.
Most couples arrange the '2x2' on the day or week before the proper (to them) celebration.
These may be available at limited times, so check with a couple of register offices to see which one fits your plans.
Expect a fairly basic room or office - as reflects the fact that it's just a legal formality registrars offer.
There's no need to tell them you're having a celebrant at your chosen celebration venue.
Save the ring exchange for your celebrant ceremony. It's not part of the legal marriage contract.
Any other couple or family ceremonies, such as vow renewal and naming, have no legal status, and do not require a registrar!
4. IS THE LAW ON MARRIAGE CHANGING?
In England/Wales, at present, only certain religious ministers or registrars may solemnise marriage - but marriage laws are outdated and currently under review.
The Law Commission has made many recommendations for reform, including permitting celebrants (humanist and/or independents) to apply to be registered by the council to solemnise marriage and civil partnership.
Some permanent changes have been brought in as a result of the pandemic. These do not permit 'personalised' marriage ceremonies as has been mistakenly been reported!
Outdoor ceremonies led by registrars are now permitted in certain parts of licensed venues, that is all.
It is expected that in future, venues will not need licenses - the officiant will have the authority to conduct legal marriage in any setting.
The recommendations to the government for change will be published in July 2022.
My style is warm, gentle and humorous, creative and inclusive.
I'm led by you, because it's about what you want, and what best suits your personalities, values, beliefs, traditions, interests and lifestyle.
I'm just as delighted to lead classic and elegant 'traditional' ceremonies as 'alternative' ones.
Whether traditional or alternative, there's no such thing as a 'typical' ceremony - it's an interplay between us to create the right one for you.
There's nothing you 'have' to have, and plenty you may have that you won't realise until we meet. We'll start with a blank canvas and as we speak, and get inspired and excited, your ceremony plan will come to life.
Sounds fun, right? It is!
6. WILL YOU LEAD A 'TRADITIONAL' CEREMONY FOR ME?
I'd be delighted to!
'Traditional' is a bit of a misnomer though, as if you would like a celebrant ceremony, you're already breaking with tradition.
If you'd like a 'traditional' ceremony with a familiar structure, that's great - I can do that for you. You can have the comforting words and rituals, and have it fully personalised. Best of both worlds.
7. WILL YOU LEAD AN 'ALTERNATIVE' or LGBTQ+ CEREMONY FOR ME?
Pop on to the Alternative & Inclusive Celebrations page for more information.
8. WHERE DO YOU CONDUCT CEREMONIES?
Wherever you'd like me to!
There are no restrictions on type of place, other than the owner's permission. There are ideas for locations above.
'Local' ceremonies for couples are those within 40 miles of DN35, for which the travel is included in the fee.
I'll travel UK wide, as long as travel costs are met, at standard mileage rates, plus hotel/subsistence if an overnight stay is required.
For long-distance ceremonies, the planning can be done by call, Skype and email.
Some venues offer celebration packages with a celebrant included; you don't have to have their recommendation though - the choice of celebrant is yours.
If you'd prefer me to create your special celebration, let the venue know, and get in touch with me.
9. WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE FEE?
Your fee is for a professional, bespoke service from a fully qualified, insured, experienced celebrant, and between 20 - 35 hours work, for a ceremony of up to an hour. Your may choose your ceremony length; most opt for 20-30 minutes, but whether you'd prefer 5 minutes or 45 minutes, it's up to you.
Couples ceremonies typically include (See Jewel Packages for details):
Get-to-know-you chat over a cuppa & cake or a pint to check I'm the right celebrant for you
Pre-meeting resources, such as the couple questionnaire/quiz & mood board
Celebration planning meeting (or video meeting and calls if you prefer or are at long-distance)
Guidance and inspiration for ceremony content
help and inspiration with poems, readings, music
choice or creation of symbolic acts and rituals
support with writing vows/promises
liaising with your guest contributors
ongoing email and phone support
Draft ceremony script for your approval, before amendments
Venue check and liaison with planners & other suppliers
Walk-through informal rehearsal at home (N E Lincs only)
Officiation on the day - from an hour before the ceremony until the end of photos
A beautifully presented keepsake souvenir script
A commemorative certificate, for you and witnesses to sign, if you’d like one
Travel within 40 miles of DN35/Cleethorpes
Optional extras include:
Rehearsal outside N E Lincs, or at the venue
Extended presence at event if you're not having a toastmaster and you'd like me to help with introductions/toasts at the wedding breakfast and the 'do'
Upgrade to a combined ceremony, if you'd like to incorporate e.g. a naming
Beyond 40 miles, standard mileage charge of 45p/mile applies
Overnight stays/subsistence are invoiced at cost where required
Additional keepsake packs and certificates
Ceremony supplies for rituals aren't included in the fee, as these reflect personal choice and taste to find the right ones for you. I can order, however, order anything you require from the Ceremony Supplies website on your behalf.
10. WHAT ARE THE FEES FOR WEDDING & CIVIL PARTNERSHIP CEREMONIES?
It depends on what you want, and when and where you want it!
Your investment varies - according to ceremony type and time, and whether the ceremony is local (within 40 miles of DN35).
Peak days are Fri-Sun.
Premium days are bank holiday weekends, and calendar special occasions (Valentine's day, Christmas, New Year's Eve, Hallowe'en), plus festivals (e.g. Whitby Goth Weekend, Asylum Steampunk).
'Wedding Season' months are April - October, plus December.
Fees do not depend on ceremony length. Most wedding celebrations are 25-45 minutes, and even if you 'only want a quick 15 minute ceremony', you'll still receive as much attention in its preparation as for a longer ceremony.
See Q9 above for what is included in the fee. The link for this year's 'fees from...' is on the page footer. Get in touch for a tailored quote for the day/date you have in mind.
11. WHAT ARE THE FEES FOR VOW RENEWALS?
Vow renewals are priced the same as weddings.
They are just as special a celebration as your original couple ceremony, and as much time, expertise and creativity go into me making your vow renewal as memorable an event as your wedding.
It shouldn't be a 'basic 10 minute rehash'; rather a full celebration in its own right. You've been through much together, whether that's been a year or decades. You will have many more stories to share, and perhaps new ideas for the future.
Vow renewals are often 'bigger' ceremonies, as family and friends may be involved, and there may be extra non-traditional elements.
Discounts may be offered if I previously led your earlier couple ceremony. See Q9 above for what is included in the fee.
12. HOW DOES IT WORK? TAKE ME THROUGH THE STEPS!
Get in touch and let me know what type of celebration you're planning, and when and where it will be. I'll let you know if I'm available, and give you a tailored quote. Talk to other celebrants too - it's your special day, and so explore your options, and you'll know when I'm the right one for you.
If you're in N E Lincs, let's meet up for a 'get to know you' chat for an hour in a café, or at your home. Otherwise, we can schedule a half-hour Skype or Zoom call.
Book the register office and venue
If you are getting married or having a civil partnership and haven't already done these, make them your priority. Registrars are not needed for commitment ceremonies, vow renewals (and namings) - these aren't statutory ceremonies. You only need a '2x2' register office ceremony for a wedding. Don't book the registrars to come to your venue! You may have any venue you choose for me to lead your ceremony at. I'll help if you get stuck on either. I can also make recommendations for venues.
Once the day, time and place are confirmed, it's time to meet! Ideally, we will meet/speak sooner rather than later - several months to a year before the day for couple's celebrations - to ensure you can be booked in while that date is still available.
At the first meeting/chat, I'll get to know all about you and what your ideal ceremony looks like. When you decide you'd like to book me, a deposit will secure your special day. I'll give you a timeline leading up to your ceremony.
I'll then support you with all aspects of ceremony content and structure including the readings and poems, and your vows/promises. I can suggest symbolic acts that will give your ceremony meaning and the 'Aww' or 'WOW' factor! I'll give you access to the VIP area of the website - there's information and resources there, and many exciting ideas for rituals and symbolic acts to personalise your day.
The main planning meeting will take place 3-6 months before the ceremony.
Once I have all the information I need, I'll send you the draft of the ceremony structure and wording to check, and will amend it to suit you. We'll stay in touch throughout the run up to the day, and I'm here whenever you need me.
This is an optional extra (unless agreed otherwise), so it's up to you, if you'd like a full walk-through for reassurance.
I'll be there early to check everything is just so, and stay after for the photos. I'm happy to help out if you need me, until the start of your reception.
Happy Ever After A couple of weeks after, you'll receive a souvenir keepsake pack to remember your wonderful day by, with my very best wishes.
P.S. Don't forget to tag me in the photos!
Now say 'Yes!' to your amazing custom celebrant ceremony with me too!